Tuesday, March 31, 2009


Well my appt in Columbus was pretty productive, hopefully soon I can at least afford to go to a decent Dr to help me out.

Yesterday am was a court hearing for the custody for Brian, as you may or may not know, his wife moved out a couple of months ago taking Jacob with her. She has filed for divorce, he, not wanting that but after mths of begging her, got his own attny and filed for a temp custody hearing to be able to see his son. Since moving out, Jacob is with her mom, she works everyday and goes to school mon, weds, friday nights, yet Brian was either told, "no, you can't come get him" or no one answered the phone when he called. Maybe twice a week the mother in law let him come pick up his son. He is used to being the one to get the boy up every morning, cooking him breakfast, bathing him, dressing him then spending the entire day with him, yet because she decided she wants to be un-married, Jacob and Brian are forced to lose that close connection they've had for Jacobs entire life. Brian has been laid off from Mayflower since before Christmas, giving him the entire day with Jake while she worked and went to school, before the lay-off, he worked 3-11 therefore did all the same morning routine.
Yesterday he was told, legally, he could get full custody of Jacob, but he decided he wanted to do shared parenting because his son needs to be close with his mom as well. Mature of my son, and dont get me started on my thoughts of "close with his mom". Divorce, probably being reduced to dissolution, will be on or about May 18.

Josh took and passed his ASVAB test to enter the Navy yesterday as well. With no jobs around that are of much account and him not getting any younger, felt this was his best course of action to get ahead. Personally, as his mom, I'm not thrilled with him joining up during war times when everything is so unstable. He is however, an adult and I know he's thought this through for a long while, visiting with every branch of the service before deciding on the Navy. I can only wish all the best for him, pray for him, and be there for him as I always have and always will.

Christy and Justin are going thru some changes in their world as well. Not like my other two kids, but life changing events are happening that I truly believe will be for the best for both of them. This will however take them further away from me, making me somewhat sad, I miss the shit out of her now, don't see her often enough, but again, they are adults and typically make good decisions. Everyone has to do whatever is necessary in todays world for the best for themselves.

Doesn't matter how old or how far away those three are, I'm still mom, I still love them all to pieces and worry when things are in an upheaval. Momma bear still brings out her claws to protect her cubs.........

over 30

When I was a kid, adults used to bore me to tears with their tedious diatribes about how hard things were. When they were growing up; what with walking twenty-five miles to school every morning, uphill... barefoot...

BOTH ways

Yadda, yadda, yadda

And I remember promising myself that when I grew up, there was no way in hell I was going to lay
a bunch of crap like that on kids
about how hard I had it and how easy they've got it!

But now that... I'm over the ripe old age of thirty, I can't help but look around and notice the youth of today.

You've got it so easy! I mean, compared to my childhood, you live in a damn Utopia!

And I hate to say it but you kids today you don't know how good you've got it!

I mean, when I was a kid we didn't have The Internet. If we wanted to know something, we had to go to the damn library and look it up ourselves, in the card catalogue!!

There was no email!! We had to actually write somebody a letter, with a pen!

Then you had to walk all the way across the street and put it in the mailbox and it would take like a week to get there! Stamps were 10 cents!

Child Protective Services didn’t care if our parents beat us. As a matter of fact, the parents of all my friends also had permission to kick our ass! No where was safe!

There were no MP3's or Napsters! You wanted to steal music, you had to hitchhike to the damn record store and shoplift it yourself!

Or you had to wait around all day to tape it off the radio and the DJ'd usually talk over the beginning and @#*% it all up!

There were no CD players! We had tape decks in our car. We'd play our favorite tape and "eject" it when finished and the tape would come undoneĆ¢€&brkbar;'cause that's how we rolled dig?

We didn't have fancy crap like Call Waiting! If you were on the phone and somebody else called they got a busy signal, that's it!

And we didn't have fancy Caller ID either! When the phone rang, you had no idea who it was! It could be your school, your mom, your boss, your Bookie, your drug dealer, a collections agent, you
Just didn't know!!! You had to pick it up and take your chances, mister!

We didn't have any fancy Sony Playstation video games with high-resolution 3-D graphics! We had the Atari 2600! With games
like 'Space Invaders' and 'asteroids'. Your guy was a little square! You actually had to use your imagination!! And there were no multiple levels or screens, it was just one screen

And you could never win. The game just kept getting harder and harder and faster and faster until you died! Just like LIFE!

You had to use a little book called a TV Guide to find out what was on! You were screwed when it came to channel surfing! You had to get off your ass and walk over to the TV to change the channel! There was no Cartoon Network either! You could only get cartoons
on Saturday morning. Do you hear what I'm saying!?! We had to wait ALL WEEK for 20 cartoons, you spoiled little rat-bastards!

And we didn't have microwaves, if we wanted to heat something up we had to use the stove ... Imagine that!

That's exactly what I'm talking about! You kids today have got it too easy. You're spoiled. You guys wouldn't have lasted five minutes back in 1980 or before!

The over 30 Crowd

Sunday, March 22, 2009

my catch up post....

Catching up from my past blog, I had good news, I guess, from my attny that is fighting the workers comp. He had me sent to a specialist in Columbus who found me totally and completely disabled. For the life of me I dont see how that's good news, but at least it promises for money in the near future. Of course we're talking political and that near future will be 4-6 mths away.

I have another appt with my attny in Columbus this friday, he's the one appealing my SS application, I guess we'll see how that fairs out.

I first hired him, Jeffrey Buskirk, to help me with my SS issue, his office then recommended I see Phillip Fulton, also in Columbus because apparently I still fall under workers comp. They do seem to be good lawyers, and I've definately seen progress, but it's a killer to go that far for appts. My back just doesnt appreciate a long car drive, that I personally have loved my whole life. It was nothing to hop in the car, start driving and end up in another state *not counting wva.,LOL*. Christy and I would always love to fire up the music, and just drive, no destination or time frame in mind, I miss those days.

As most of you know, Tiff had her little baby Lily last friday, on Juddy's birthday actually. She calls me in the morning to wake me, wanting me in the delivery room with her, I was with her for Braylon. I got up, showered, talked to her, shes 4 cm and the dr predicts late afternoon,, Good news! I can make coffee and wake up. Its about 10 am at this point......Going to take mom's car to MF hosp, so I walk down, call Tiff, she can't talk because the nurse is there to do the catheter, she'll call me back......wait,,, well, Tiff calls, guess what, Lily is here LOL, no fuss no wait with that little one. Fortunately Misty had gone to the hospital so Tiff didnt deliver alone.

Brian, Jacob and I spent the day together, we even picked Tiff and Lily up and drove them home. I've had a day full of babies, Jacob, Braylon and that teenie tiny little doll Lily, and trust me, this granny is feeling it, heading to bed now.....

Sunday, March 1, 2009

New Mexico's not a state?

While reading the newspaper this morning, I came across an article that just makes me shake my head. I've googled the newspaper, searched, but can't find the article online. I wanted to link it here so you, whoever may read this could see for yourself, but, no luck with that so I'll try to put the jest of the article in this blog.
The Times Leader, Sunday March 1...........One of our 50 States is missing by Kay Sedgemer.

Apparently a citizen of New Mexico was in D.C. at a shopping mall, in a major store, to purchase a new suit. When the man gave his id and check to the cashier he was then informed, "I'm sorry sir, we can't take checks from outside the country." The shopper informed the cashier that New Mexico is indeed IN the country and a state. A second cashier agreed with the first, telling the man, "no, New Mexico isn't a state, its part of Mexico and we can't accept your check." The man then asked to see a manager, who unbelievably agreed with the two cashiers!, New Mexico isn't a state??? it's part of Mexico???? I'm sorry but when the citizens of the United States don't even realize what is or isn't a state, omg, scarey thought. The man finally used a credit card, which apparently they will accept from "out of the country" to make his purchase. He then said he should warn fellow New Mexicans to be sure and have a passport when traveling to D.C.

This article just leaves me shaking my head. Don't schools teach kids whats a state and whats not anymore??? Sad to think that one day these same kids will actually be running this country.