mid august

Seems I don't keep up with these blogs very well. I think it's mainly because most of what I'd have to blog is drama, and drama, being mine or most likely this crazy family's just doesn't seem like something people would want to read about.
I have so much on my mind always about my kids. It doesnt' matter how old they get, how long they've been married, or how far away they live, I still worry.
Christy and Justin are doing very well, I'm so proud of how their lives are turning out together. Justin is a wonderful guy, who often deserves a medal of patience with my hormonal daughter at the moment, lol. Couldn't ask for a better son in law. My biggest worries with her right now are all surrounding "marvin". Hoping things continue to go along fine in that dept. Also, crazy mom I am, maybe, but when you read about women being murdered and their babies ripped away, scares me. Esp when Christy tells me how one of her "friends" wouldnt speak to her upon hearing of her pregnancy, jealousy's of her own lack of becoming pregnant. Then, same said chick is all best friendsy like.....lets hope she's not one of those psycho people. I know, I know, momma's worried for nothing. Right.
Brian has his own issues. Being laid off for an undetermined amount of time with absolutely no work in the valley is the main issue. His ex wife, unfortunately is the other issue that just won't go away. They were granted with shared parenting and the time shared with Jacob is going well for the most part. However when she decides she wants Jacob during Brian's time with him, she has this way of telling Brian how she WILL pick him up at noon instead of the designated 4pm that was court ordered. So far Brian hasn't given in to any of that, but it's getting old. Also, according to their child custody papers written by the courts, there is NO custodial parent and both have to agree on medical issues of Jacob, schooling issues with him, and several other "shared" decisions. Once again, she TELLS Brian that Jacob has been enrolled in pre-school, but didn't give him a schedule for the boy. He has no problem with Jacob going to pre-school, but it was to be a SHARED decision on the place. They've already been ordered to each pay half of any preschool he might attend. With Brian being laid off and no medical insurance right now, she had Jake picked up on Medicaid, which she has refused to give Brian a card for, saying "They told me we only get one we have to share."......A lot of good that would do if something, God forbid, would happen and she weren't available to bring the card......
As for Josh, well, still in that limbo until December when he leaves for the Navy. He's working at Sams Club, meeting with his recruiter, and basically hanging out and fishing a lot. He had a meeting today with the recruiter who politely told Josh he has to drop 9lbs now, too many late night munchies I guess. He's been working out on his days off with swimming, weights and basketball at the Y, so hopefully he can lay off the nighttime beverages and snacks a bit.
As for me, well, there is a meeting on my behalf with Workers Comp later this week. I did recently receive a check for a find of more of a loss to the affected ankle then what was previously determined. The doctor and attny's are still trying to have my back put on that claim and to have a permenant total disability where the ankle is concerned. I haven't heard anything about the SS claim for about 3 mths, however I was forewarned to not be surprised by a 8 mth wait on that one.
On that note, I hear my bed calling. Maybe I won't wait 2 mths next time to update.

Now that Christy has made it public I can say, I'm going to be a memaw again in January. Congrats to her and Justin.


I think it would be nice to add a little girl to the family and I find myself referring to this new one as "she" but on the other hand, boys are soooo much easier then girls I think.


Christy is my baby girl and has been out on her own for 13 years. That's left me living in a house full of testosterone, Tom, Brian, Josh and now Jacob. I do miss the female connections but I'm just not sure I'd want to deal with all the drama of little girls.


My niece has 2 daughters who are often around and I get to "remember" just how little girls are. The other day an ant was on Emily's leg, and omg, you'd have thought it was chewing her leg off the way she was screaming, an ant! Jacob on the other hand got very upset when she killed it. He likes to pick up bugs, any bug, and bring it to us to see it. Little girls get upset if they get dirty, LOL not our Jake, the dirtier the better

and that's ok by me, he'll wash as will his clothes.

Granted, you can buy cute little things to dress the girls in and boys, well it's pretty much jeans and tshirts. My own little girl however HATED to wear pretty dress up things for the most part, so, not much difference in that even I guess.

All I truly care about is getting a healthy happy baby, be it Olivia or Jack, it will be loved and spoiled by memaw as much as Jake is.

catching up

Have been too busy for the pc lately but with the rain out there and no one here, I can catch up.
Brian got his divorce, and as stated before, shared parenting of Jacob. He has Jake Weds, Thurs Friday and Sat nights. He just got called back to work this week on afternoons, sooooo, Weds, Thurs and Fridays I am at his house with Jacob until Brian gets home at 11:30. I just think it's best for Jake to be in his own home more then in mine.
Brian is back to work, however, it's supposed to be for only 2 mths, then off for a longggg time. Projected date for Mayflower to be up and running as normal, is 2012!

Josh is excited and antsy to get going into the Navy, however he has to wait until Dec 7. In the meantime, my "smart boy" really messed the top of his right foot up. He's always been one of these people who can get poison ivy by sitting on the porch, well, add the fact that he LOVES to fish and is often in the weeds, he gets it frequently. Mr genius has for a few years been self treating, against nurse mommy's advice. He will take a kitchen scratch pad, rub directly on the poison until it's raw and bleeds then put bleach over it. Not only is that very painful and stupid, but he gave himself a bad chemical burn to the top of his right foot. It did get infected and so bad he couldnt even put a shoe on. After a trip to ER, with no insurance, I'm hoping he's learned his lesson about that.

Christy and Juddy were in over the weekend. We had a fun time. All the family was here for a cookout, and with 500 water balloons to be filled and thrown around, everyone went home wet and happy. I really enjoy when they can make it home for a weekend. I dont really see her often enough. We do however have good phone time, usually 3-4 times a day.

Still working towards getting some sort of income for me. That damn EORH has sent me to manyyyyyy doctors who all basically agree with the same diagnosis to just send me to another. I've been to Pittsburgh, Columbus, Morgantown, Steubenville, Wheeling, Zanesville, Cambridge and most recently they sent me to Canton. Now wtf! That doctor in Canton told me, he can't understand why they sent me to him, he'd gone over my records, run his own tests to only give, yet again, the same diagnosis that EORH has disagreed with for 5 yrs. He told me that this is how they give you the run around in hopes you'll get so frustrated you drop your case. I just can't wait til everything is resolved.

And now, I'm no longer alone in the house, my day has started.............

dilema...do I punish him, or laugh my ass off??

After taking Jacob out of a morning bath, I had him wrapped in a heavy towel laying on my bed, when I realized I'd forgotten his underwear. I left him laying there while I went to another room to get him some. When I got back into the bedroom, I found that the clever 3 yr old found the powder. Omg, I thought, do I punish him now? do I laugh uncontrollably? In the end I probably did what every other Memaw in the world would have done....grabbed my camera and pictures are below........




After another hour of cleaning up the mess in the bedroom and digging powder out of his nose and ears, all's well......

ok christy

i'm sure my purse isn't as interesting as yours but.....inside we found

wallet
checkbook
change purse
loose change
two pens
tweezers
mirror
compact
lipstick
memory stick< no clue why
3 matchbox cars< never know when we need them
tissues
keys
cigarettes
kroger card
camera case, which normally holds this camera

chaos

what is it that when you love ppl so much, so strong u'd do anything and everything for them, give them the shirt off ur back, last morsel of food u'd fixed ur self and the last dollar to your name, even if you need it yourself, just to get disrespect in return.

if i had the money and means, i'd take off to where the fk ever i landed and stay.........

just reinforces my thoughts, the dead are the lucky......

changes

Well my appt in Columbus was pretty productive, hopefully soon I can at least afford to go to a decent Dr to help me out.

Yesterday am was a court hearing for the custody for Brian, as you may or may not know, his wife moved out a couple of months ago taking Jacob with her. She has filed for divorce, he, not wanting that but after mths of begging her, got his own attny and filed for a temp custody hearing to be able to see his son. Since moving out, Jacob is with her mom, she works everyday and goes to school mon, weds, friday nights, yet Brian was either told, "no, you can't come get him" or no one answered the phone when he called. Maybe twice a week the mother in law let him come pick up his son. He is used to being the one to get the boy up every morning, cooking him breakfast, bathing him, dressing him then spending the entire day with him, yet because she decided she wants to be un-married, Jacob and Brian are forced to lose that close connection they've had for Jacobs entire life. Brian has been laid off from Mayflower since before Christmas, giving him the entire day with Jake while she worked and went to school, before the lay-off, he worked 3-11 therefore did all the same morning routine.
Yesterday he was told, legally, he could get full custody of Jacob, but he decided he wanted to do shared parenting because his son needs to be close with his mom as well. Mature of my son, and dont get me started on my thoughts of "close with his mom". Divorce, probably being reduced to dissolution, will be on or about May 18.

Josh took and passed his ASVAB test to enter the Navy yesterday as well. With no jobs around that are of much account and him not getting any younger, felt this was his best course of action to get ahead. Personally, as his mom, I'm not thrilled with him joining up during war times when everything is so unstable. He is however, an adult and I know he's thought this through for a long while, visiting with every branch of the service before deciding on the Navy. I can only wish all the best for him, pray for him, and be there for him as I always have and always will.

Christy and Justin are going thru some changes in their world as well. Not like my other two kids, but life changing events are happening that I truly believe will be for the best for both of them. This will however take them further away from me, making me somewhat sad, I miss the shit out of her now, don't see her often enough, but again, they are adults and typically make good decisions. Everyone has to do whatever is necessary in todays world for the best for themselves.

Doesn't matter how old or how far away those three are, I'm still mom, I still love them all to pieces and worry when things are in an upheaval. Momma bear still brings out her claws to protect her cubs.........